Sometimes we look back and se how for we have come. You remember something that knocked to your knees, broke your heart and shattered you. When you are in the middle of the break up and all of the emotions, it may feel like things will never be good or happy again. But life has a way of working out for the best. And God has a way of putting us where we need to be, whether we realize it at the time or not. we look back a year later and see our lives have take a 365 degree turning – meaning that your life has completely been returned to you, and usually better than it was when you started down the Heartbreak Lane.
Maybe it is the virus, maybe it is the year it has been, maybe it is the cycle, but there have been a lot of relationships ending recently. It is difficult to watch those you love go through a painful break up or divorce. I have never been married, but I have been through some bad break ups. One of them came up on my Facebook memories…
It was a year ago, 365 days, that he he whispered at 5am, barely loud enough for me to hear, much less wake up, “this isn’t working, I am leaving,” one week before I was to move in with him, 2 weeks before Christmas and 3 weeks before my lease was up. The next day he wanted me to give away anything he left at my house, except for the gifts I bought for his kids. He still wanted me to send those to him.
And I was stunned. And heartbroken. And mad. I had sacrificed a great deal for him. I had helped get him sober. He was a raging alcoholic, co-dependent, manipulative and completely messed up. But he made a lot of money, so he thought he could treat me any way he wanted and I should take it. He left when he found out that was not the case.
So I gave his things to charity and I moved where I wanted to be. I had wanted to move to Texas for a few years, and I loved the area that I had become most familiar. Within three months of moving. I had made it home. There was a garden, new friends, a new car, and a new man. I set out to have a new life and find my heart. And I did.
A year later, I am happier than I have been in years. I love where I moved, have great friends and I am loved. Not the superficial, conditional love I experienced in that relationship. But real love, the kind that sticks to your ribs and gets in your heart. The kind that works things out even when it’s hard. The kind that is patient, because humans are beautifully flawed and wonderfully gifted in trying over.
So when you are faced with a break up, or divorce or an ending that you didn’t want, have faith that it will all work out. I would have been in a horrible co-dependent relationship with my alcoholic ex, who had had 4 kids, 2 ex wives and more drama than even Springer could handle. Now I am happy with myself, my life, my partner and all the possibilities that are in the future. It all worked out just fine, better than fine actually.
Life is short. While it may be hard to keep moving forward, you have no other choice. So you might as well get busy putting one foot in front of the other. Every day will get a little easier. Don’t spend your time crying over a partner who is not meant for you and who treats you bad. Know that even of it is hard now, in a year, your life is going to look so much different than what it looks like today. Your life will grow expenentially aftee losing bad people. You will be happier, better, stronger and better off. and when you look back you will see that you survived that 365 degrees, and that you are now thriving because of it.
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