Lately there has been much of what I dislike, so as a balance I thought there should be a list of what I love. I am blessed and happy, and these are some of the reasons why. Enjoy!
I love October—the sound of that word, the memories of Octobers past, the promise of the autumn ahead. I love knowing the holidays are right around the corner. I love seasons, plain and simple.
I love the color green. I love toast. I love the smell of a horse’s coat and a barn full of straw and grain and dust. I love the smell of sawdust. I love cold draft beer, or a glass of wine, preferably enjoyed in the company of friends. I love calamari. I love pears and mangos. I love my father’s boiled peanuts. I love my mother’s homemade baking and candies peanuts. I really love mint chocolate ice cream. I love the smell of leaves, of newly cut grass, of the ocean, of clean laundry and a clean house. I love my cats, a lot, even though they shed a carpet a day.
I love that I’ve kept all my old journals, locked up safe in a box.
I love “East of “Eden” and “Shawshank Redemption” and “The Lovely Bones.” I love e.e. cummings’ “I carry your heart” and Pablo Nurudo “I like for you to be still” I love falling head-first into some fictional landscape and not even realizing how the hours have passed. I love movies that make me cringe and movies that make me cry. I love a good love story.
I love my father’s voice, the way his hugs fit and feel just right, the way he has taught me “A man is only as good as his word” over the years, and, most of all, that I am his daughter, in so many, many ways.
I love my mother’s laughter and one-liners, her ability to surprise me, even now, after a lifetime of looking up to and trying to understand her. I love her compassion, her creativity, her relentless push that I be the very best and bravest and most honest and most genuine woman I can possibly be.
I love that I hold myself to parents’ standard, however high. I love that I have such a close relationship with them.
I love being an aunt. I love that my friends are becoming mothers now, too, and I am witness to their change.
I love that I love him still, and no one can take that love away from me. IO love that it has been 16 years of still loving him. I love that I no longer care about or fear judgment for this love.
I love the Caribbean. I love that I will one day live there.
I love my strong legs, my green eyes, my warmth and my tight hugs. I love that I’m good at loving. I love that I’m devoted and passionate, eager to please and happy to work hard. I love that I know who I am.
I love that I know when to let go. I love that, even if I don’t always succeed, I try.
I love my long walks. I love that I can bust out a three-mile run even if I haven’t hit the pavement in two weeks. I love that I am healthy. I love that I have an athletic history and can still feel its teachings course through my body each and every day. I love that I no longer criticize how I look in the mirror; I love that I’ve accepted that I am not perfect, nor will I ever be, but it is the slopes and curves and dimples and wrinkles and scars and strength that make me that much more lovable.
I love the possibility, the hope, the anticipation. I love holding hands, and I dearly love kissing. I love flirting; I love crushing. I love catching his eye.
I love Atlanta, and Valdosta, and Bequia, and Barbados. I love making a home wherever my two feet (and my cats) land.
I love that my sister never fails to surprise and challenge me.
I love my dear friends—plain and simple.
I love choice; I love optimism; I love the courage it takes to put a single word onto the page.
I love how much life I’ve lived; I love how much life I still have ahead. I love how much I have loved in my short, but well lived lifetime. And I look forward to loving again.
I love that I will love again, not now, but later when I am healthy. I love that I am not in a hurry and know I can take my time with finding my next. I love that I know I am worth the wait, and so is he. I love the fact that I know I will never have to be here again. I love the fact that I am strong enough that I would rather be alone than in a bad relationship or a rebound.
I love my voice, I love singing so very loudly in the car, that people can hear me even when I have the windows up. I love that I walk on my tiptoes when I am happy. I love that I have learned to love that I am clumsy. I love that my hair is wavy only on one side.
And I love that even now, in this mess that is my life, through the tears that I still cry at night, through the pain that keeps me from sleeping, through the broken heart that beats in my chest, through the loss and grief that is blinding at times, I love that I can say, I am blessed and happy.