Fear. It’s a grightening word. And it is the reason why many people play it safe and never take chances. And they never jump.
The definition of insanity is the do the same thing and expect different results. And yet we do it all of the time, waiting. Waiting for this job, or that relationship, or that situation to change, when we are doing the same thing day after day, tuck in doing the same thing but expecting change. Waiting for the change. And then we get impatient and exasperated and exhausted when the change doesn’t come.
I have long said that if you don’t like your circumstance, or job, or relationship, or just whatever, you can change it. If you are feeling stuck, you can change that. Especially if you feel stuck and have no idea what to do or have to do it. It’s OK, because even though that feel terrible, it actually isn’t isn’t. It comes back that that old saying that if you don’t know where you are going any road will get you there. You have to jump, you have to take that chance…it’s scary, but it will work out. And I know what I am talking about.
When I was 18, I went on a job interview to be a DJ at a local radio station. I had no idea what I was doing, I just wanted a tour of the station and knew they would give me one if I went on the interview. And I got the job. Did the same thing 4 years later after college at an interview for a TV station and got the job. And moved to a new city, even made new friends that I still have today.
Years later I got out of radio and felt stuck. I had no idea what I wanted to do, just knew I wasn’t really happy and didn’t know what to do about it. So I went against my mother’s wishes and moved from a small Georgia town up to the big city of Atlanta. I literally packed up a UHaul with all of my belongings, and moved without a place to live or a job. I talked to two people who were renting rooms, met with one of them and sighed the lease same day I drove up. My landlord was shocked when, immediately after signing the lase, i asked him to help unload the moving truck. I got two interviews that week and landed a lob. I jumped – moved up on a wing and a prayer, and it worked. i spent 17 years inn Atlanta, with good times and bad, but it all worked out.
And then I moved to Texas. My parents had died, my family imploded, I had just broken up with my then boyfriend. And I was just stuck and heartbroken. In every way, from my soul, to my toes, all the way up to my head. And when I said I said I was scared, my friends reminded me who I was, and that I could do anything I wanted. So I jumped. I said a prayer, rented a house online – sight unseen – packed up a van, drive 1,00 miles and landed. Three weeks later I met the love of my life (whom I just married), and life is amazing. But I had to jump to get this life that I love.
Here’s the thing though, if you really want to make some changes, you have to get out of your comfort zone. And that is what the jump is. You cannot stay comfortable and accomplish anything extraordinary. The moves I have made and chances I have taken in life – and there are for too many to mention on a short blog – were extremely uncomfortable. I didn’t know if things were going to end up as I hoped. I am not particularly fond of change, and I most certainly do not enjoy being uncomfortable. But if you want to change your life – you better get uncomfortable, or at last come to terms, with being uncomfortable. At least for a time.
I was terrified. Sometimes a cried I was so scared, and I definitely prayed, sincerely, eyes squinted shut, through sobs, and probably barely audible (Dear God, I have no idea what I am doing. But I need this change, so if this is something that is your will – and Please make it your will – then please point me in the right direction. I will go where ever you show me I should go, I will follow you. So just please, please, guide me, because I am scared , the stakes are high and I don’t know what I am doing. And make it so obviously that I have no question that this is where you want me).
It’s scary, but worth it. How will you ever know what life God wants for you, what those possibilities are , if you stay safe on the cliff? For years I have written that we get to build the life we want, (read about it here > ). I f that is true, then we can change the trajectory of our lives at any time, at any age, at any stage, at any location, at any point. It is all about our decision, all about if we are willing to take the risk. But I have a job, bills, this, or that. You’ll still have those things whether you jump or not. So you might as well make the change. And don’t worry about those who don’t like your decision, because those who truly love you will want you to be happy and have the life you always wanted.
Life is short. Too short to always play it safe. Too short to always stay on the sidelines, wondering what if? Jump/ Take the chance. I did. and now, after all the heartbreak, I am living my fairytale. I have the life that I always wanted. But only because I jumped. Join me, won’t you?