Lessons Learned

Everyone, at some point un their lives, usually several times, goes through a time where they walk away from relationsgips that are no longer good and healthy. And if we do not do this often enough, if we ignore the red flags for too long, God or the Universe, makes us do it.

It has been an emotional time in the House of Ada, between family deaths and drama, and other outside issues. And most have been supprtive and kind. Most. I have written extensively on grief and the importance the support of those around you. But it is not just about grief.

If you are going through a hard time, whether from grief, or health issues, or loss of job, or whatever, those around you have the power to help heal you, or harm you. If you are surrounded by love and support, those who treat you Bentley, healingbis much easier. But those who are constantly cruel and who constantly through you in choas and emotional pain, while you are going through hard times, are not your friends. Nor do they love you. For your own healing and sanity, walk away from them. No, actually run.

If you are in a relationship, your partner should absolutely be a source of peace and comfort. Lovers who refused to be kind and show compassion during hard times need to be shed.

I think that romantic Partners have a particular power to heal or harm their significant others during a rough patch. Constant picking and fighting but wear anyone down even the best of times. So if your partner is constantly picking fights when they know that you are emotionally vulnerable and in need of empathy and support, that is a conscious decision. They are making a conscious decision to either support you or to harm you. Everyone has a bad day and everyone makes mistakes, but if being mean to you is a consistent trend, get away from them as fast as you can.

Your partner should be your protector. Your partner should be the one you can go to in your absolute most vulnerable state, and never fear that anything bad will ever happen to you. They should hold you, say they love you, say that it’s all going to be okay, and reassure you and support you in any way they can. If they don’t, then that is a huge red flag.

Those who love you will be there for you, and will be nice to you, regardless. Those who love you will support you through your rough patch. Those who constantly fight or ceeate issues where none existed, are only doing so to fullfill their own petty needs.

Remember that. Pay attention to those that support you, pay attention to those who who are kind…and those who are not. And chalk it up to lessons learned.

Life is too short to spend time around assholes. Move on, live your life, do you, amd if they were meant to be a part of your life, they will catch up.