When I was younger, in high school, college and beyond, I always had more male friends than female. But somewhere along the way, not sure where, that changed. Maybe it is part of growing up, that as we grow up and pair off, we align more with our own. One thing that I know for sure, is that your girlfriends are the ones who will always have your back. I have been very blessed, and have some of the best guy friends around, but my girls are my heart.
Throwing dinner parties is a way to get friends together over good food, good conversation and good wine. And I have always loved having friends over. But lately the dinner party has evolved into a celebration of not only friendship, but of women too. These are the women who are strong and have loyalty, character, strength and are my tribe. They are the best of the best, and I am proud to have them as my friends.
I have written extensively on the importance of making sure that you have those of your cloth around you. Those who hold the same values as you will not disappoint. It is when we choose those who do not that we get hurt. Think about it, when someone you love betrays you, it is ultimately because your values and theirs did not line up. So it is crucial to be discerning when choosing friends or lovers. Your inner circle should be of the utmost quality. And these ladies are.
So I cooked a wonderful meal for a small group of women who came. And it truly was a celebration. They each have their own story, their own paths, and I am blessed that their paths have crossed with mine.
And that is one of the things about life, that no matter where we are, we can always identify and find our tribe. Those who hold the same values, the same loyalty, the same love of wine and sarcastic sense of humor.
I am finally hitting my stride in this new normal. I am finally happy and functioning at full capacity. And these ladies are too. I will have my tribe. And we will lift each other up.
Life is short. Find your friends. lean on them. Love them. Celebrate them.
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