Anyone familiar with grief and the loss of loved ones will tell you that no matter how far along you are in the process, no matter how much time it has been, there are certain days that may still be hard.
I have come a long way since her death almost two years ago, but still some days are harder than others. Mother’s Day, her birthday, the holidays, can be especially hard. Last Mother’s Day was the first without her and that first one I think is the worst. I am not sure how the second one will be. Last year I celebrated by getting her a card, swimming out into the ocean, releasing the card to let the tide deliver the message. And I know that she got it. It was amazing and beautiful and cathartic and wonderful.
For their 50th anniversary, in November, I got them both a card, and swam out to the ocean again. That time a friend swam out with me so that I would not be alone. And it was beautiful. There are many ways to remember a loved one…from planting trees, to having a nice dinner, to doing charity work. But none of those seem to fit. Maybe I will go out to a lake and deliver a message that way. Maybe release balloons. Maybe I will read her manuscript that she wanted me to finish. Maybe I will look for the signs and find a way to celebrate, to do something new and make a memory in her honor. I will find some way to celebrate her, and her life and our relationship. Our last Mother’s Day was not the best as Mom was sick and very moody. That made it difficult at best. She often got mad at small things and I did not understand why or what was going on. But we loved each other so very much that even her sickness could not break that bond. Grief is universal, and so is losing your parents. Hug them if you still have them around. Tell them you love them. And cherish every day you have together. Make Mother’s Day a true celebration. Make it the best you can so the memories are wonderful.
I am not sure how the second one will be.
Hug them if you still have them around. Tell them you love them. And cherish every day you have together. Make Mother’s Day a true celebration. Make it the best you can so the memories are wonderful.