Vested is defined as secured in the possession of or assigned to a person. We search for being vested in out careers and in finance with our 401Ks, why not find a way to be vested in life. In our lives?
To me being vested means being in-vested. After all, isn’t that why we want our 401KS vested? It’s free money, it multiplies and helps us attain our retirement goals. To me, there is no better investment to make than in yourself.
What does that mean exactly? That means making sure to take care of yourself so that your spirit, your goodness, you life-force, multiplies. I know what happens when you don’t take care of yourself and get run down. You get beyond tired and weary. It is an exhaustion that is felt from the tip of your soul to the bottom of your heart. And it can take years to recover and get your “You” back, to feel 100% again.
Taking care of yourself means getting enough rest, exercise and spiritual food. We hear it all the time, to take care of yourself, almost to the point where it is cliche’ but there is a reason. I spent years taking care of others before myself. It took it’s toll. When you are tired like that, down to your heart and soul, you cannot feel happiness or see the good in life because it simply takes too much energy. So even the amazing is bland. It’s like being sick on vacation, no matter how great the vacation is, you won’t enjoy it if you are sick.
Yet somehow along the way, taking care of ourselves has become synonymous for “being selfish.” Except it’s not. When you don’t take care of yourself, you become depleted and can no longer take care of others. You no longer have anything left to offer, and then you will only take from others. Because you have to be replenished. Better to do so before you reach empty rather than after. Think about it, we don’t let our cars run out of gas before we fill up the tank, why would be do that with ourselves?
But it is more than that, taking care of yourself also means giving ourselves the compassion and forgiveness that we give to others. It is great to hold ourselves to a high standard, but we are all human, and no one is perfect. Yet we beat ourselves up for not doing everything, being everything, accomplishing everything, and being perfect. Why do we do that? Why do we give others the love and understanding that we do not allow our very selves to enjoy?
Take time for yourself, listen to some music, get rest, take your vitamins, breath fresh air. The model of doing for others to the detriment of yourselves is co-de pendant and unhealthy. Maybe in the dark ages, when they had no technology, and science and medicine were in their infant stages. But in this day and age, we should be able to take a break, invest in our own physical, emotional, spiritual and mental health. Go to the doctor, or psychologist, or psychiatrist, or to yoga, or for a walk, or do what ever you need to do to be happy.
And if you don’t take care of yourself, then who will? Whose responsibility is it? Your job, big companies won’t do it. Corporations are looking our for the bottom line. Your bank won’t do it. And your family and friends have their own lives and issues to deal with. Yes, we can lean on our loved ones, but if we won’t help ourselves, take cafe of ourselves, then why would we expect any one else to? Bottom line is no one else will, so you have to love yourself enough to invest in yourself.
Be vested in yourself and your life. We are so careful and considerate with our money, shouldn’t we be at least give the same consideration to our health and happiness? I want love to be so present in my life that it is tangible. That love first has to start with myself. And like any good investment, that love will multiply, until it envelops everyone in my presence.
For me, love always originates from God. So I pray for His love, compassion and Grace to be passed on to me, And with His love passed on to me, I can invest it in myself, so that it will multiply and be shared with others.
Because i don’t just want to survive. Or even just exist. I want to live.