We all have times in our lives where we have to let people go when that is not what we want to do. but it is necessary to do this in order to be truly happy in life. Whether it is someone walking away or if we need to do the walking, whether it is a friend, romantic interest, partner, co worker or even family, sometimes we just have to let them go.
This was a very hard lesson for me to learn. And I held onto my ex longer than I should have, because I loved him, because it hurt to much to let go, because I had suffered so much loss already. But trying to hang on only prolonged the inevitable and made both of us miserable. Had I let go earlier, there would have been more room for better people a lot sooner.
And it is frustrating to watch someone we love hang on and refuse to let g as well. One of my best friends is hanging on to a man who is terrible for her. He has many substance abuse issues, is manipulating, lies and is not in a good place in his life where he has anything to offer. He will be toxic to anyone he comes across until he deals with his issues. But she doesn’t see that. She sees him as the nice person he is 2% of the time.
Why don’t we let go when we should? Why do we hang on longer than we should to unhealthy relationships? I don;t know. Maybe it is the fear of being alone, maybe it is the hope that things will work out, maybe it is because we don;t think we deserve any better, or that his person is the best we can do. Or maybe a thousand other reasons. I really do don’t know. But what I do know is that if you want peace and happiness in your life, you have to trust that the people who are supposed to be in your life, will be in your life. And let the rest go.
This clip says it the best: