Many women (and men) begrudge getting older. I love it. There are so many wonderful benefits that come with age and I do not understand why we do not celebrate it. Sure, there are a few more wrinkles, but who says that isn’t sexy? I like the lines on my face, I like how my body is evolving. I like my looks more now than when I was younger. Yes, the hips are a but fuller now, but I like them. And what are these benefits that only come with age? Sit down and get comfortable, as I will be more than happy to tell you.
Wisdom: I love this part. I am so much wiser than I was when I was a kid, and by kid I mean in my 20’s. In your 20’s you don’t have anything figured out. You may think you do, you may even have it all together, but you are an idiot when it comes to life. Trust me.
Comfort in your own skin: I see those little 20-somethings all pump up and insecure in their little outfits and such, worrying about how many likes something gets, how many followers, what he says or what she thinks…because that is where their world is. Oh, they can have it. I feel just as comfortable and sexy in a pair of jeans and a t-shirt as I do an evening gown, or sexy vampy dress and boots. Because sexiness comes from within, and that is something those 20 year-olds haven’t figured out yet. So let the glam it up…I’ll be sitting in the table in the corner, people watching, enjoying a glass of wine and not trying to impress anyone.
You don’t care: This goes along with being comfortable in your own skin, but takes it much further. To be honest, you just can’t be bothered. With what exactly? IT doesn’t matter. Anything you don’t want to fool with or be concerned over, you just aren’t. IT doesn’t matter what other people say, think or do…what. Ever. You. Don’t. Care. You are too busy enjoying your own life to let someone else’s drama interfere. This frees up a lot of time and energy that is was wasted in your 20’s and even 30’s. You are a lot more relaxed when older.
Dating and intimacy: This isn’t your first rodeo and you are proud of that. You can own your womanhood. You don’t have to do anything, and you won’t unless you want to. You know what you are worth and what you are not. You know which rules to break and which ones to follow. You also are much more comfortable with your body and what feels good, and you are not afraid to make sure you get it. There is no playing coy, unless you want the fun of it. You know the tricks you need to do to make you and your man happy. And I don’t mean what you read out of Comso magazine. Cosmo is for beginners. This is the kind of knowledge that only comes from experience.
You know when to watch: You are also not afraid to get the popcorn and watch when the men in their 50’s try to date GIRLS half their age because of their midlife crisis. That’s right guys, if you are 50, and you are dating or trying to date someone in their 20’s… you look ridiculous and are an idiot. We are watching you with the popcorn ready, waiting for it to magnificently explode in your face. The only thing those girls have are daddy issues and money issues, both of which are a mess. So go ahead and hi five your friends, we will be there with a big bag of I-Told-You-So on the other side when you are licking your wounds wondering what happened. She isn’t going to settle down and she isn’t going to make you happy. And no we are not insecure. We are however, very entertained.
Sexiness: It drips off of you because you don’t care if you impress someone or not, you don’t have to have them and you are comfortable on your own. This is because sexiness comes from the inside, and nothing is sexier than confidence and knowledge. And the quiet confidence of your knowledge. Knowing that you can walk into the room and own every pair of eyes in that room, but you choose to go home alone. You can’t buy that at Forever 21.
Money/Career: Speaking of buying, did I mention we make more money that our younger selves? We have our career figured out. We don’t need anyone to give us a leg up, we are helping others at this point in our lives. We have done the rate race, we are happy where we are, and are not having that “OMG, what am I going to do with my life now that I am almost 30” crisis. Been there, done that. We don’t need a man to pay our bills (but we will let him if he offers). We are thinking about retirement and how to travel – first class – when we vacation.
These are just a few of the reason I love getting older. Women are like a fine wine, we just keep getting better and better. And if I am this fabulous now, imagine how much better I will be in 5 years or even 10, or more.
Live life, enjoy, make experiences and memories. Enjoy getting older as it is a luxury not afforded to everyone.
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