I will never understand why if given a choice, some people will choose to lie. Is it fear of rejection? Fear of being ridiculed or judged? Or maybe it is pride ort just …I don’t even know. But I would love to understand why?
It is easier to admit I made a mistake or an error in judgement, than it is to lie about it – whatever it is. If I did something wrong, or hurt someone, I will gladly admit it. Because quite honestly, to me lying takes so much energy. Why not admit the wrongdoing or mistake and be done with it? Then it is up to the other person to accept the truth, not you. You know that you have done the right thing, and can walk away from the situation with a clear conscience and peace of mind.
Every one of us have made mistakes, because we are all human. We have all made errors in judgement that have had unexpected results. We have all done things that backfired. Or that we just realized was the wrong thing to do. We have all lashed out when hurt at some point in our lives, and we have all been angry or felt regret or guilt about those things later.
That is all part of the human experience. We try, we fail, we get up and try again. That is called life. And along the way, sometimes we lie, but we should tell the truth more often than not. And when someone confronts us with the truth…why not just own up to it? Why not just say, “Yes, you know what? I did that. And I am sorry…”
Studies have shown that people who own up to the mistakes they have made actually build trust and forgiveness in others. How many politicians have come out and admitted to mistakes and lies? Finally telling the truth, asking for compassion and forgiveness. And they usually get it.
There is a lesson to be learned. When you make a mistake or an error in judgement, tell the truth. Make amends. To hide under a lie or to get defensive is a coward’s way out. And while we are all human, not all of us are cowards. Because it takes courage to face up to a lie. It takes courage and humility to admit to a mistake. And it takes strength to ask for forgiveness after coming clean.
And if I can do it, so can anyone else. Because I have made mistakes and had terrible judgement. I have done things that I am not proud of, even ashamed. And I have had to apologize for being human in this life. I have owned up to my shortcomings, and begged for forgiveness. Is it pleasant? No. But it is all part of life. And you have to be willing to experience it, if you want to grow, if you want to be better, if you want to bring a life that is truly full of love.
What if someone never admits to a lie or mistake? Then you don’t need them on your life. Lies build mistrust. And while everyone makes mistakes and has errors in judgement, if someone is constantly lying, then you cannot have them in your life. Because they will only cause havoc and misery. They will always blame you instead of facing their own shortcomings. And that means they will never correct the behaviors.
So stand up and admit to being human. After all, that is part of life.