Most people things that a happy, peaceful life comes easy. But in my experience, it does not. It takes a lot of work to make sure that all is well and happy and healthy in your life. Just like exercise and keeping your body fit, life sometimes requires some work in order to keep things in shape.
You must be very vigilant to make sure that you keep out people and situations out that will cause drama. When you don’t, the result can be a lot of energy spent dealing with destructive, emotional situations that leave you exhausted. And constant drama can not only leave you drained, but also emotionally unhealthy.
There is a saying about keeping your circle small. I have found that to be true. And every now and then you have to let people go when they drain you of your time and energy by dragging in unnecessary drama. Even if you love them, even if they are dear friends, even if they are family. Sometimes the best thing is to just walk away.
I did this recently and the result has been actually having the time and emotional bandwidth to heal. Mom’s death and all the changes surrounding that have been tough. And everything has happened very quickly. So I had to choose, either my emotional health, or them. My emotional health won.
Healthy boundaries are a necessity for a peaceful life. You must have lines that others are not allowed to cross. Anything that disturbs your peace of mind or makes you feel bad, anything that does not serve you or your purpose or your joy, must go.
And now I can grieve properly – in a safe, loving environment that fosters emotional health. I can truly concentrate on what is best for my family as we move forward. I can make sure that this move goes as smoothly as possible. That this home, our home, is a good space that is a shelter from all that is bad. And bottom line is that I am too busy and have too many things on my plate to deal with such foolishness. I just can’t be bothered.
I could not do that if I still had those situations and people interfering. So don’t be afraid to be selfish, don’t be afraid to stand up and do what is best for you, for your family and for your life. Today is not a dress rehearsal. Don’t be afraid to take control and be a supporter of boundaries for peace.