In this life you have to have guts. Guts to say how you feel and do what needs to be done. You also have to have the guts to do what is right for you, because it’s your life. You ahve to be willing to sometimes make people upset, if it means that you are following your truth and what will make you happy. Basically, you have to have the guts to have the life you want, a life that feels the way you want it to feel.
I have long said that instead of asking what job title you want, or what things you want to accomplish, or put on your bucket list, think about how you want you life to feel? For instance, you may want a job title of VP…but what if that means that you are working 100 hours a week, never have time for your friends and family, and are always tired? Is that how you want your life to feel? No? Then you probably will not be happy as a VP. Instead, what makes you happy? What inspires you? Go after what will make you feel that way…not the job title, or zip code, or flashy car. If you have to work all the time to afford that big house on the hill, maybe downsize so you can afford a house and sometime off (maybe a vacation?) Go after the feel.
And do to that, you have to have guts. And you have to follow your guts as well. That means following that gut instinct that tells you where and what will make you happy, what will make you feel fulfilled and good. Follow that positive energy that feeds the soul.
Oh, but that can be hard can’t it? But it’s worth it. And that is what a good friend reminded me today as I was making a decision . Go after the quality of life that you want, and don’t try to force it because of expectations. And a weight was lifted off my shoulders. It was a decision that I already knew, but wanted to run past someone to validate that I was not crazy. And indeed, having a the guts to follows your gut instinct is what will lead you to happiness.
How do you measure success? By my quality of life. That doesn’t mean fancy, expensive things. That means being happy, being fulfilled, having a purpose and loving what I do. Having a life I am excited to live every morning. Sound corny? Not at all. Happiness is priceless and your guts will never lead you wrong. Do it and start building the life you want.