A creative man is motivated by the desire to achieve, not by the desire to beat others. – Ayn Rand
Many times people see a successful person and which they themselves could accomplish such things. In my life, I have has many successes, and many failures. I think the two really do go hand in hand. Because you have to be willing fail brilliantly to succeed brilliantly. When people ask me about success, I tell them what has worked for me. These are my secrets:
Faith and Prayer: Pray and have faith that those prayers will be answered. It may not be what you expected, but you will get an answer. And have faith that the answer is what is best and work with it. You really don’t have a choice but to work with it anyway.
In my career, as well as in my personal life, every one of my prayers have been answered. And there have been many prayers, tear stained cheeks or just needing guidance. And don’t forget to say thank you.
Hard work: There is a saying that many people are afraid of success because it looks an awful lot like hard work. There is no way around it, you have to work very hard if you want to succeed and anything. You must have a sick work ethic and be determined to go through as many Nos as you have to to find that one YES that you need. If you don’t work hard, you will never make it. But you get to play hard too.
Help People: I owe a lot of my success to the fact that I will help anyone I can if they ask for it. This means help them find a job, give career advice, tell them who to contact for what if I don’t know the answer. You have to help people, because people have helped you. No matter who you are or what you have done, you did not get anywhere without someone believing in you enough to give you a chance. You can be the best and hardest worker, but if no one gives you a chance, you are not going anywhere.
You also want to help others because people help those who help others. And we all need help at some point. Miss Karma can be a bitch, so make it pleasant when she visits. Which leads to the last secret…
Giants: I have been successful because I have had the privilege to stand on the shoulders of giants. The people who have had faith in me an helped me along the way…I could not have done it without them. They have taught me, coached me, given me contacts, supported and helped me when I have had nothing to give in return, believed in me even when I didn’t believe in myself and just been my heart.
But even when you have reached a level of success, you still have to work hard. And you may lose friends, as some will be jealous of your success and resent you for it (sometimes, even your own family). That’s OK, let them go.
Never feel guilty for reaping the good that you sew. The Karma of resentment will come back on them too. Those people will never be successful themselves as long as they resent your achievements instead of celebrating with you. Resentment is so negative and destructive that it will hold them back. Get as far away from those people as possible and limit your contact as much as you can. They will suck the happiness out of you and whatever you do for them will never be enough.
Keep people who do celebrate your achievements close. And cheer them on to. That positive energy is contagious too, and we need more of it in the world. Your inner circle should be filled with those who are positive and love. And those who can be honest with you as well. Those who will not only support you, but keep you in line.
Those are my secrets of success. I have been beyond blessed to have the opportunities I have had, the people who are in my life and the things I have done.
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