Sometimes, one of the hardest things about writing is figuring out the opening sentence or line that might catch someone’s attention get them reading further and deeper. Just sitting down to write this post, I have come up with quite a few opening lines:
- It’s that time of year again…my birthday month!!!
- Just when you thought you were safe from another “New Year” blog
- As I sit here, in my PJ’s…
And sometimes, planning out the next year can be just as challenging. I for one, am beyond happy to see the end of 2014, and am ecstatic about 2015. There is a sense of optimism and happiness. But how does one go about changing their life for the better exactly? Not sure on that one, though many thousands of books have been written, and many thousands more no doubt. Maybe it’s really not an exact science. Maybe it’s all by trial and error. Wouldn’t it be great if we had a compass to tell us where to go for that good life we want, or when we may be veering off track? A magic 8 Ball that really did have all the answers?
First I want to take care of myself. Like many women, I stopped taking care of myself and took care of others instead. And when all was said and done, I was sitting on empty. That is changing. I now look around at at empty house (except for the cats) and realize that I am bound by nothing…The world is mine to find adventure, with new things to trip over, places to fall into and new drinks to spill. I am picking up where I left off so to speak and it feels good. And scary. And exciting. And overwhelming.
I stopped working out and exercising. I stopped hiking, Stopped going to live music shows, or the botanical gardens. I quit fixing my hair, trying make up things and just having a bit of fun and enjoyment in general. And adventure doesn’t have to be far from home, as long as you stay curious and keep quality people around you. For example, I had the best New Years I have had in a very long time. The best thing in the world, is when you are having such a wonderful time that you loose track and don’t even realize it’s midnight…
“Well behaved women seldom make history “- Laurel Thatcher Ulrich
And I want to take a vacation this year. On a beach. I miss the beach, miss the water. It’s calling my name. FINALLY publishing my book is on the list. I had to put it down to tend to other things and now, just like the rest of my life, it’s time to start it back up again. So if any of you know any publishers….
Exercise. The Dreadmill, the bane of my existence. But exercise I will. Not just to loose a few pounds, but because I felt better when I was exercising. And I have set up a wonderful workout/zen area in my bedroom that will be perfect for rain day workouts and Pilates. Also, the garage is organized with space for the heavy bag. Yes, it’s time to start boxing again! And maybe even jog around the neighborhood if it ever quits raining. If not, boating around the neighborhood, that could be good exercise too.
I am not going to take on so much crap from others. I can help and be kind without putting myself out or sacrificing myself for them. This may seem counter intuitive to having Grace, which I am also seeking. But I think they can go hand in had. In order to have Grace, you do not have to be a doormat. You have to set realistic and healthy boundaries for yourself and life. I have not done the best of either in the past.
“Do one thing that scares you every day.” – Elenore Roosevelt
But the main thing for this next year, is to take more risks and chances. When we play it too safe, we forget how to really live. And sometimes the best thing you can do is step out of the comfort zone and grow. I want to do this with life and especially love. Someone sent me a picture they have of the word “Love” written in the sand on thebeach. That is what I want my life to be, full of love, life and sand this year. And it’s of to a wonderful start.
But I am also reminded of something I read not long ago, and that in order to be flexible, we must have stability. So, before any adventuring into the sunset happens, I must first find that stable foundation from which to build and spring my life. Maybe that is why I am taking much care in getting the house unpacked and situated. And after being displaced by the mold, it is great to finally be able to relax and have a home in which to settle.
And there it is, my new year, for the age of 42. And each heartbeat carries all the hopes, dreams and fears that go along with them too. And so it is, that I start this celebration of my birthday month. A celebration of life, of anticipation, of passion, of chances and of love. And they bring an enthusiasm that boils up from that deep place inside, past the mind, into the soul and back again.
2 thoughts on “New Year, Birthdays and Taking Risks”
I have recently joined your blog and have not caught up on your last 4 years yet but when this post popped up in my email I felt compelled to write. First of all, I commend you for your desire to embark on a different path this year because it is a path of your choosing. Second, I’m not here because I have any solutions or answers or pearls of wisdom. I just go about life trying to do the best I can.
As one who is much older than you (and Happy Birthday) I remember some of the things I tell my daughter who is a bit younger than you in the hopes it nudges her towards her hopes and dreams during those times she is experiencing life’s version of writers block.
One, is I think we will only regret those things we did NOT do, not the things we did do. Another is that I truly believe there is the concept of “the artist within us” that, over time we fail to listen to only because we are listening to others.
I remember a wonderful TED talk by Sir Ken Robinson where he discusses how schools kill creativity in children. Sometimes I wonder if the daily grind of real life kills the creativity of adults.
And, finally, to quote William Purkey:
“You’ve gotta dance like there’s nobody watching,
Love like you’ll never be hurt,
Sing like there’s nobody listening,
And live like it’s heaven on earth.”
I wish you well Ada and look forward to sharing in your adventure.
I would strongly suggest that you go with Amazon Kindle. The sad reality is that book publishers are cutting way back on new authors.
Even in their heyday they only promoted your book for one quarter (3 lousy months) if at all. For that they give you a lousy 7%.
Then it takes a year to get your book published if they do take it on. Amazon gives you 70% if you lock into Kindle exclusive. You
were always going to have to essentially promote your own book.
There are all kinds of good books on Amazon on how to promote your own book. If you are interested I can suggest some.