Bed of Love and Roses

Yes, it is That day tomorrow, the day dedicated to love: Valentine’s Day. When I was younger, I was all into this day.  I wanted the roses, the dinner, the gifts, the romance, the ALL of Valentines. Ah, how age has mellowed me out. I am still a romantic sap, but a bit more practical.

To me, whether single or attached, these days Valentine’s is about the every day love that we experience in our lives. And  as I look around, I see so much love in  my life. First, the love of my parents. Their love for each other and their family is truly inspiring. I can only hope to be as good of parents as they are.

And my friends. I have so many who are there for me, day and night, through the good and bad, thick and thin. Yes, they are my heart, as it beats over and over.

And then there are my loves. Those men who have been in my life and are and have been the loves of my life. Most of them are still friends, and I cherish the time they have been in my life. They have been and filled the space between the heartbeats. Each and every one. The time between each breathe.

These are the people who love me no matter how many times I make mistakes, trip and fall, spill things, put my foot in my mouth, break something, need help, forget something, when I look ugly, feel ugly, have gained 10 lbs, eat and entire pizza (not that that has ever happened), have a bad hair day, or month, spill a drink on them, or their significant other (not that that has ever happened…)and countless other things too numerous too mention..

And I think of how blessed I am, to have loved and top have been loved, and to be loved so much. In my life, in this new beginning, in this space and time, in this struggle, there is not a place I can go to get away from the love in my life. And it will just grow. Because that is what love does when it’s shared. And love is everywhere with me as I start this new beginning, this new adventure in life.

And to all of them, everyone who is a source of love and light in my life; I carry your heart. I carry it in my heaart

Some People Ask About Rumors

Some people ask me about rumors – why don’t I defend myself against them and tell the truth? This video pretty much days it all. While the circumstances are very different – there are no children – the sentiment is the same. First, honestly it would do no good, those who love to gossip, lie and spread rumors don’t care about the truth, they just want something juicy about which to speak. Second, the people who run their months simply are not worth my time. I don’t have to justify myself to anyone, whether it’s family,  or anyone else. Third, the people who know me, who love me and who take the time and care it takes to get to know me, know the truth. Those are the people that matter. I answer to myself and God. Everyone else can kiss my ass.

Live your life and be the best person you can be. After that, let the chips fall where they may, and let people think what they want. Their opinions are of no concern to you. There are much more important and loving things to have in your life.  Don;t let someone else’s ignorant excuse to deflect the attention from their problems and dysfunction affect the magnificence that is your life.

When you stop spreading rumors and lies, and actually take the time to see someone for who and what they really are, take the time to believe them and invest…you just might learn something…