In life, most of us strive to be healthy. We watch our weight, cut down on carbs and trans fat, exercise, get check ups, take our vitamins and generally stay away from anything that might make us unhealthy – for the most part. But that is just the physical. If we do not take care of ourselves emotionally as well, we will be just as crippled as if we are in a wheelchair.
But the emotional isn;t as obvious, because no one can look and see they emotionally unhealthy-ness. If our arms is broken, or if there is a bruise somewhere, we cam see it. We know it needs attention and to be looked after. But what happens when we stop taking care of ourselves emotionally?
Our life breaks down. We start making poor decisions that can affect us our whole lives, if bad decision after bad decision stacks up. And then all of the sudden, you look up and realize, your life was never what you thought it would be. Because little by little, it got slowly chipped away by each time you did not take care of yourself.
But it;s never too late to change, never too late to get emotionally healthy. You are never too old, never too young, never too far gone. You just have to do what you know is right, no matter how hard that is. Stand up for yourself, don’t be afraid to say no, or stop, or just to voice your own truth. And if making someone else happy is hurting you or making you un happy-well, that is called being co-dependent. It’s an ugly word for an unhealthy way to live.
“To thing own self be true” is the saying, and believe me, it keeps your mind and spirit healthy.
How do you do that? By simply being honest about how you feel, what you need, what you don;t need, what you can do and can’t do. The people who love you don’t want you to be run dry. They don’t want you to be depleted. They want you to be happy and full, so by disrespecting yourself, you are also disrespecting them as well.
I had to learn that this week, and it was a hard lesson for all those involved. And some are still mad and me and may be mad for a long time. That’s OK. I can;t help that. I can only help myself and make sure my life is healthy. And everyone will be better off, in the long run, even if it’s a little hard at first.
I have never been one to be pushed or bullied around. And I have taken down quite a few bullies in my time. But I am such a people-pleaser that if I am not careful, I will sacrifice my own comfort for the sake of those that I love. This is not helpful, and it does not serve me very well. Indeed, it may seem you are doing that person a favor, but you, in fact, are not.
The best way to take care of those you love, the best way to make sure you have a good and happy life, it truly to take care of yourself first. When you make sure you and your life are full, you have plenty to give those you love…but make sure to set firm boundaries so that you continue to take care of yourself and have something to give.
And remember, healthy is as healthy does. Sos honor yourself and be healthy.